The Issue with Positivity #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

The issue with positivity is it’s hard.

Really hard.

Especially nowadays since negativity is so much easier.

Way easier.

It’s the easiest thing in the world to go on social media and whine, complain, bitch, moan, judge, and blame about all the bad in the world.

But here’s the rub.

Negativity never — not once — created a positive outcome.

What negativity does, all it does, is breed more negativity. More whining, complaining, bitching, moaning, judging, and blaming.

Even this post, so far, is all negative. And nothing positive will come out of it unless I end with a positive spin.

So let’s do that.

Let’s, together, make a commitment to positivity.

To showcasing the good.

Displaying the extraordinary happening all around us,  day in and day out.

Celebrating others’ success.

And shining the light on not just what we have but what we can actively do to better the world.

I’m not saying ignore the bad or sweep it under the rug.

But what I am saying is, in order to address the bad and come up with a productive solution — not just an emotional diatribe — positivity is our key.

So let’s use it.

-J

 

 

 

 

 

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Better Friends #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

Ever feel like your friends don’t really support you?

Encourage you?

Motivate you?

Get happy for your success?

Well.

You need better friends.

Because the most successful people live in the most supportive environments. And that’s not by accident. They, literally, pick and choose who is worth keeping in their life.

Because — and this is important so pay attention — who you choose to surround yourself with is your choice.

Period.

So, by all means, keep bad friends in your life if you really want to — if it’s worth it to you.

But don’t forget who you choose to keep in your life is a choice. Your choice. And it’s one that can and will impact your success.

-J

 

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Your “Qualifications” Mean Jack #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

It doesn’t matter how much you “know.”

How many degrees you have.

How many books you’ve read or even if you’re the best at what you do.

Because none of that matters if people — the one’s you want to work with — don’t know you and, more importantly, how much you care.

Listen.

It’s your job to show people who you are and prove to them how much you care.

The onus is on you — not them — to build and create trust. And in the online world, the best way to do that is through free, valuable, high quality content.

Consistently.

Over and over and over again.

Your qualifications mean jack.

Don’t expect people to come find you, regardless of how “qualified” you are.

They won’t.

Because what they’re going to do — and this isn’t a guess, it’s a promise — is find the most easily accessible person who gives value, establishes trust, and consistently proves how much they care.

Period.

-J

 

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Holding Grudges is a Losing Strategy #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

The bigger person always wins.

Always.

And holding grudges — like Gary says — is useless. It’s a waste of time and hurts you more than the person you’re mad at.

Nothing bad ever comes from being the bigger person. You’ll never regret being the one to forgive, reach out, and mend a broken relationship.

Fact is, when you’re 90 years old and lying on your death bed…the only thing you’re going to regret is the inordinate amount of time you spent being angry when all you had to do was say, “I forgive you.”

-J

 

 

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Your Last at Bat #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

Gary and I were having breakfast this morning when, without warning, he dove headfirst into a live chat on Periscope.

I’m barely a month in so I’m still getting used to him doing stuff like this.

Then he flipped the camera, told me to introduce myself, and asked me to briefly talk about his tight adductor (which he’s stoked to feel improving).

This all happened in, call it, 25 seconds.

Out of nowhere.

In the middle of breakfast.

Anyway.

After I fumbled over my words for a hot minute he took over and went on one of his famous mini-rants, this time about Nintendo and how they’re crushing it with Pokemon Go.

I don’t know anything about Pokemon Go — nor do I care to — but something he said hit home with me and I want to chat about it with you.

You’re only as good as your last at bat.

It doesn’t matter if you’re 0 for 19; if you walk out in the bottom of the 9th and hit a game winning home run you’re a hero.

Same works in reverse.

It doesn’t matter if you’re batting 1,000; if you strike out and cost your team the game you’re at the bottom of the barrel.

And this analogy holds true in all aspects of life, business especially.

No matter how “little” you’ve done or how “far” you have to go…it doesn’t matter. Because all that matters is you keep stacking up little victories — like hitting a single — over and over and over again.

Because eventually the singles will turn into doubles. Doubles into triples. Triples into home runs. And home runs into grand slams.

Yea, you’ll strike out along the way. Probably get hit with a few wild pitches, as well.

But as long as you keep working, keep trying, stay consistent, and never give up…you’ll get to where you want to be.

Just don’t forget, once you “get there,” you still gotta work. 

Because no matter how good you are, you’re only as good as your last at bat.

-J

 

 

 

 

 

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The “Secret” (lol) to Motivating Others… #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

It’s simple, really. And, for the most part, obvious. But just because it’s obvious doesn’t mean most people “get it” or put it into practice.

So pay attention and listen close. Because I’m about to share with you the key to motivating others.

You ready?

Here it is….

You can’t.

You can’t motivate people to do what you want. No matter how persuasive you think you are, how “right” your argument is, or how incredible your service may be.

But here’s what you can (and should) do. 

You can find out what already motivates people. And then show them how to get it.

How do you do that?

Simple.

Care — really and truly care — about your prospective client.

Listen to them.

Ask them questions.

Get to know them.

And pay attention to not only what they want but why they want it.

Then — only then — will you really know what motivates them. And that will give you the opportunity to create a safe, effective, high quality service/product/solution they are already motivated to use.

It’s funny, isn’t it?

The key to motivating others has literally nothing to do with persuasion or showing them what’s “right” and “wrong.”

Rather, it has everything to do with you shutting up and listening to what they have to say. Because that is the only way you’ll understand how to serve them best.

And, in the end, that’s what matters most.

-J

PS if you’re a personal trainer trying to start your own online PT biz, I put together a free course outlining how to get more online coaching clients and build a respectable, lucrative online coaching business. If you’re interested, you can join the course HERE.

 

 

 

 

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Something is Always Better than Nothing #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

When I started this #ThatsWhatVeeSaid series I promised you (and myself) I’d do a new one every week day.

No matter what.

Well, it’s 12:02am right now and didn’t get one out yesterday. Not because I was being lazy or didn’t prioritize it — I just, legitimately, didn’t have a chance.

Part of me started to rationalize it.

It’s only one post. In the grand scheme of things it’s not that big of a deal. Just pick it up again tomorrow.”

And I almost called it a night. Closed my computer, crawled into bed, and told myself I’ll just get back on track in the morning.

Then I remembered something is always better than nothing. And if you make a promise (to yourself, your clients, customers, friends, etc) you damn well better keep it.

So I downed a cold seltzer to wake myself up. Opened up my WordPress. And wrote this.

It’s not revolutionary or life changing by any means.

But it’s something. And maybe (hopefully) this something will help you. Motivate you. Inspire you.

Who knows? Maybe it will, maybe it won’t.

Either way, it’s something. And something is better than nothing.

Always.

-J

 

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Work Your Fucking Face Off #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

Gary and I were driving back from coffee discussing advertisements targeted at entrepreneurs.

Make 10K/month from your side job.

0 to 6 Figures in 6 months.

Earn 100K/year from passive income.

We spoke about ’em all. 

Then Gary had an idea.

You know what I should do,” he asked, one hand on the wheel. “I should make an ad that says,Earn 1K/month by giving up your nights and weekends.'”

He paused.

An ad that says, ‘Earn 1K/month by giving up your nights and weekends and working your fucking face off.‘”

Another pause.

Because no one wants to hear that. But it’s the fucking truth.

 

 

 

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When It’s O.K. to Settle for, “Good Enough” #ThatsWhatVeeSaid

Never.

Or, let me rephrase that.

It’s never O.K. to settle for “good enough” as long as you uncompromisingly care about your clients, their success, your business, and its reputation.

As long as those things are at the top of your priority list, it’s never O.K. to settle for “good enough.”

Ever.

-J

 

 

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